Book Name : The Art Of Happiness

Author : Dalai Lama


In the book "The Art of Happiness, one of the world's greatest spiritual leaders, His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama " shares his wisdom and practical advice and how to overcome everyday human problems and achieve lasting happiness.


  The book combines the Eastern spiritual tradition of the Dalai Lama with that of the Western perspective of Dr. Howard Cutler and the result is a very accessible guide for a wider non-Buddhist audience.  Happiness is a state of mind.  The goal of life is to achieve happiness.  A stable and persistent state of happiness that persists despite life's ups and downs and normal mood swings, not only unstable pleasure, the Dalai Lama's approach to attaining happiness as absolutely practical and rational is achieved by  training the mind you identify and cultivating a positive mind.  states to identify and eliminate negative mental states that you categorize emotions as leading to your ultimate happiness.


  The first step is to learn that we need to learn how much negative emotions and behaviors harm us and how useful positive emotions are.  This type of achievement strengthens our resolve to face and overcome the negatives.  Compassion is the key feeling that a connection is a basic human need that must be met on your path to happiness.


  A real authentic human relationship has the power to heal the traumas of everyday worries, loneliness and isolation and compassion is the key to connecting with others.  If you maintain a sense of compassion and kindness, something automatically opens the door for you.  Internally, your attitude towards others changes and you can communicate with others much more easily once you encourage the thought of compassion in your mind.  Once he becomes active, he will reduce fear and allow openness to others.  It will create a positive friendly atmosphere.  You will find that all human beings are like you.  You are looking for happiness, so you will be able to identify with it more easily.


  True compassion is based on the reasoning that all human beings have an innate desire to be happy and to overcome suffering just like you and just like you, they have the natural right to realize this fundamental aspiration with this as a foundation,  you can feel compassion, whether you view the other person as a friend or an enemy, empathy is an important factor in developing compassion.  It is the ability to appreciate another suffering when dealing with others at any level.  If you are having difficulty, it is extremely helpful to try to put yourself in the person's shoes and see how you would react to the situation even if you do not have a common experience with the other person or if you do.  have a very different lifestyle.  do it by imagination, it helps you develop awareness and respect for other people's feelings.


  In the face of suffering even if universal human phenomena do not mean that we have difficulty in accepting them.  Human beings have developed a vast repertoire of strategies to avoid having to experience suffering.  Sometimes we use external means to heal our emotional pain with chemicals, other times we use internal mechanisms like psychological defenses.  This prevents us from feeling too much emotional pain when we are faced with problems, but the suffering can only be avoided temporarily.  Sooner or later we will have to face it.  Accept suffering as a natural fact of human existence and face problems courageously.  The biggest problems in our lives are the ones we inevitably face, such as the sickness of old age and death.  Try to avoid our problems or if just not thinking about it can bring temporary relief but eventually these things will go away and if you have avoided thinking about it when the date comes for one of these to happen  , that will be a shock.  causing unbearable mental discomfort, but if you think about the death of old age and these other unfortunate things, your mind will be much more stable when they do occur, because you have familiarized yourself with these problems and these types of suffering and have anticipated  that they will happen.  Accept suffering as something very natural and it will reduce the feeling of rejection of the feeling that you do not deserve to suffer that you are a victim.


  We often add to our pain and suffering by being overly sensitive by overreacting to minor things and sometimes by taking things too personally.  When problems arise our perspective narrows as our attention may be focused on worrying about the problem and we may feel that we are the only ones going through such difficulties.  This can lead to a kind of self-absorption which can make the problem very intense, when it does, seeing things in a larger perspective can certainly help to realize, for example, that there are a lot of other people.  who have had similar experiences.  and even worse experiences.  If you compare the event with another larger event, look at the same problem from a distance, then it looks smaller and less intrusive.  Life is a change.  Acceptance of change can be an important factor in reducing much of our self-created suffering, so in adult relationships, levels of intimacy change with periods of greater intimacy alternating with periods of  greater distance.  to end part of the normal cycle of growth and development to reach our full potential as human beings, we must be able to balance our needs for closeness and union over time.


  When we have to look within with a sense of empowerment to grow and develop as individuals.  Your enemy is your greatest teacher.  Our enemies play a crucial role.  The enemy is the prerequisite for practicing patience without the action of the enemy, he does, there is no possibility for patience or tolerance to manifest our friends do not usually test us and provide  the ability to cultivate these traits, only our enemies do from this point of view.  We can regard our enemy as a great teacher among the people with whom we interact with little problem, so when you come across such a chance to practice patience and tolerance, treat it with gratitude.  If someone is hurting you and thinking about them makes you angry from a different point of view.  The person who makes you angry will surely have a lot of positive aspects and qualities if you look closely.  You will also find that the act that made you angry also gave you certain opportunities, which otherwise would not.  It wouldn't have been possible even from your perspective, so with a little bit of effort you will be able to see many different angles for a single event.  When you are angry with someone you might think that person has no positive qualities, but the reality is that no one is 100% bad, the tendency to see someone as completely negative is due.  to your own perception based on your mental projection rather than the true one.  nature of that person.  Understanding and appreciating the backgrounds of the people you are dealing with is helpful.


  Openness and honesty are also useful qualities when dealing with other confused people.  anxiety which can reduce some kind of worry cultivate thinking if the situation or problem is such that it can be solved then there is no need to worry about it.  Seek a solution spend your energy focusing on the solution rather than worrying about the problem otherwise if there is no way out, no solution, no possibility of resolution, then there is no no  you no longer need to worry about it because you can't do anything, nothing.  Sincere motivation acts as an antidote to reduce fear and anxiety.  Remember why you are doing the things you are doing and you won't have to worry about looking dumb or worrying about what other people think.  You are doing your best and you don't have to worry about it.  The more honest you are, the more sure you will be of yourself that you will be honest with other elves and others about who you are and that you cannot be more open and honest.  The less you will be afraid, because there is no anxiety in being exposed or revealed to others.

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